Without Concern- A Post for Christian Singles
Last week was Valentine’s Day. Romantic love running rampant at every corner. We have hearts and “be mine” and “my forever love” in our faces. I must admit, I’m guilty of posting that last phrase on my IG because being happily married for almost 17 years is a flex. But lately, the streets have been talking about how being a single woman is more of a flex than everything.
Did you get the chance to read the October Vogue article that had the world abuzz because it said that having a boyfriend in 2026 was an embarrassment? I did. And I can say that I actually agree. Why tie yourself down to one person with a title that has no covenant? One sentence really stuck out to me was,
“Being partnered doesn’t confirm your womanhood anymore; it’s no longer considered an achievement and if anything, it’s becoming a flex to pronounce yourself single.”
What would happen if all the single people in the world “pronounced themselves single” for service in the Kingdom of God. Now I’m not talking about taking vows at the nearest convent. I’m talking about taking a vow like Ruth, working for the betterment of the community, in service to the commands and ordinances of God until He brought a man who was worthy enough to split the attention that she was able to give to God. Even better, a man who made a space for her to enhance her ability and reach to influence for the Kingdom. Paul said it himself, that married people don’t have the luxury of focusing solely on their own sanctification because they have to worry about what their spouse is doing. And again, as a happily married woman for almost two decades, I KNOW THIS IS TRUE! I have the same stance as Paul when he said,
“I want you to be without concerns.”
Until it is absolutely necessary. Yes, go out, meet people, have friends, but be single until you’re not. Because then, your self centeredness is justified. It’s just “you and Christ” until someone else comes to say let it just be “us and Christ”. But until then, pronounce yourself single in service to the Lord. Then enjoy your singleness to the maximum, building yourself up in God so that when someone else comes along who has been doing the same, the steps you take together are even better because they are not far off from the ones you would have taken on your own.
I just want the best for you. If you want to hear more about it, head over to this week’s podcast episode.
I love you,
